“Remember me with a smile”

On 1 June 2009, Judi Meadows tragically and suddenly took her own life following a short but intense period of depression.

The Meadows family has established the Judi Meadows Memorial Fund to help prevent other deaths by suicide.
The Fund sets out to achieve this by:

  • Raising funds
  • Promoting and carrying out research
  • Building awareness and sharing information
  • Improving policy and practice
  • Providing support to those affected by depression and their families and friends

We work in a highly collaborative manner with existing mental health charities, academics and campaigning individuals in order to increase our understanding and management of people with mental health problems and factors that heighten suicide risk.

Please get in touch with us if you would like to share your experience or you have ideas for positive change.

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  • Time to Talk

    The fifth Time to Talk event at St Martin-in-the-Field, Trafalgar Square, London will take place at 10.30am on Saturday 9 March. This annual event is a service of reflection for people bereaved by suicide and it combines words, music and silence.

    Please email info@judimeadows.com to reserve a free ticket.

    June 22nd, 2018
  • Suicidal thoughts do not mean death is inevitable

    With the news that Anthony Bourdain, celebrity chef has died today, just three days after the death of designer, Kate Spade, death by suicide has understandably been thrust into news headlines on both sides of the Atlantic, and beyond.

    My condolences to their families, friends, colleagues and acquaintances, on their tragic deaths, especially as they navigate mourning in the glare of the media.

    Both Antony Bourdain and Kate Space leave extraordinary legacies in their respective professional fields. For them, as with all the 45,000 people who have died by suicide over the last 12 months in the USA, and the 6,000 in the UK, we must all help to ensure that they are defined by the life that they have lived, and are not reduced to the manner of their death.

    And yet, it would be irresponsible to not recognise, and take steps to mitigate the fact, that deaths by well-known figures present a very real public health risk as there is documented evidence of contagion effect. After the death of Robin Williams suicides in the USA rose by 10%. We therefore urge the media, health professionals and each and every one of us to make it clear that suicide is not inevitable for anyone.

    When high profile suicides happen let’s seize the moment, to open up our minds to each of us having more conversations in our homes, our workplaces and communities about mental health. Talking is the way in which we can help break down taboos which do stop people in need from seeking help when they need it. Speak to everyone and anyone you meet about mental health – you need only watch the Prince William and Lady Gaga’s tête-à-tête to realise that you can share a tête-à-tête about mental health with the most unlikely of friends (youtube.com/watch?v=WXPx_fBJVPU)

    Share with each other the fact that mental health problems are incredibly common – one in four of us will experience mental ill health at some point in our lives. And mental health does not discriminate – it affects men, women, young, old, rich and poor. You are not weak, a failure, or pathetic if you have a mental health problem.

    Talk also about the fact that suicidal ideation is much more common than we think, and dare to admit. It is estimated that for every one death by suicide there are 300 people thinking of suicide. Yes, it is a difficult fact to accept, but if we lock talk of suicidal thoughts away, and shroud it in shame and secrecy, then people become too fearful to share their darkest thoughts, and that’s when suicidal ideation can turn to death by suicide. Talking openly about suicide is NOT more likely to make it happen. On the contrary, all the evidence shows that when we are prepared and brave enough to ‘call out’ suicide and give a name to what people may be thinking, that it reduces their risk of death. The word suicide should not be avoided in favour of one of many unhelpful euphemisms (remembered Lord Voldemort, and the sinister power he was given by being called ‘He who must not be named’).

    We need to recognise as a society that suicidal thoughts can be a part of people’s lives, and a mechanism to navigate difficult painful times. By doing so people who are thinking of suicide will feel less shame, and feel better able to talk openly about how they are feeling, and turn to family and friends and health professionals for help and support.

    Let’s make sure that Anthony Bourdain and Kate Spade’s deaths don’t drive up the number of suicides, but that instead compel each and every one of us to help lives that are threatened by suicidal thoughts.

    June 8th, 2018
  • Finding the words

    When someone loses a loved one to suicide, often family, friends and colleagues want to offer support but feel uncertain about what to say. There is now a new guide to help make it easier to reach out to someone bereaved by suicide. Finding the Words offers practical advice about what to say, as well as what to avoid, and it is based on research by Dr Alexandra Pitman (Senior Clinical Lecturer and Honorary Consultant Psychiatrist at University College London).

    The Judi Meadows Memorial Fund are delighted to have funded the writing, design and printing of the guide and we hope it will be welcomed as a valuable addition to the resources available for people affected by suicide.

    Finding the words [PDF]

    February 28th, 2018
  • Third Time to Talk service

    The third Time to Talk service for people bereaved by suicide took place on Saturday 4 March 2017 at St Martins-in-the-Field in London’s Trafalgar Square with over 450 attendees. Once again it combined powerful and poignant personal stories, thought-provoking poetry and beautiful moving music. It’s a privilege for us to be involved in helping to bring this unique community together for mutual benefit. This year the church kindly recorded an audio file of the service. It is is available here. We are grateful to everyone who attended and those individuals and organisations whose support helped make the event possible.

    Specific elements of the service can be found at the following time codes:

    01:03 – Music: Largo from Oboe Concerto No. 3 in G minor, George Frederick Handel
    03:31 – Welcome: Revd Dr Sam Wells
    04:54 – Opening address: David Mosse
    10:49 – Music: O thou art the light, Gabriel Jackson
    13:27 – Testimony: Anne Biggs-Davidson
    20:04 – Music: The Lamb, John Tavener
    23:25 – Poem: In memoriam Suzette Sabrina, Elly Niland
    27:20 – Music: Dido’s Lament from Dido and Aeneas, Henry Purcell
    33:13 – Music: Agnus Dei from The Armed Man – A Mass for Peace, Karl Jenkins
    38:13 – Testimony: Rohan Kallicharan
    45:20 – Music: Ups and Downs, Hattie Whitehead
    49:22 – Testimony: Amy Meadows
    58:12 – Testimony: Sharon McDonell
    1:05:35 – Music: Gabriel’s Oboe, Ennio Morricone arr. Craig Stella John
    1:09:23 – Closing address: Revd Dr Sam Wells

    March 7th, 2017
  • New Year’s Honours recognises mental health champions

    We are really delighted that the Queen’s New Year Honours has recognised the important work in the field of mental health of a number of brilliant and committed people who we have worked with over the years to raise the profile of, and improve services for, people with mental health problems. Heartfelt congratulations to Hamish Elvidge of the Matthew Elvidge Trust, Sue Baker of Time to Change, Alison Baum of Best Beginnings and Sarah Brennan of Young Minds.

    Sue Baker
    Sue Baker
    January 1st, 2017
The Judi Meadows Memorial Fund is a restricted grant of the McPin Foundation. Charity number: 1117336
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